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Writer's pictureSamantha Tomaszewski

Day 15-16: ❌Surgery✅Sleepover

Updated: Dec 17, 2023

It's Saturday morning - I am NPO and waiting to see the Neurosurgeon or hear about a surgery time.


The nurse reminds me that they said afternoon.


This pain is INTENSE.


They keep offering meds but I'm afraid of the reactions and potential liver stuff-


I've stopped the pain meds because of the allergic response- but- the head pain is NOT TOLLERABLE.


I start trying other options- the iv nausea meds to make me sleep-


❌ Allergic reaction 7?❌


Now I'm vomiting again, hunched over: In PAIN


MORNING ROUNDS

😎 Neurosurgery:

  • doesn't come

🤓Neurology:

  • comes to examine me

  • Discusses a one-time seizure event I had a year ago

  • States they want to start the seizure meds due to the MRI results/area of this lesion

  • I ask them to wait and consult 😎because my past MRIs were clear and I haven't had a seizure

👨‍⚕️Oncology:

  • confirms the plan to biopsy

  • Discusses potential need for the liver biopsy and order additional scans

  • Let me know that GI specialists are getting added because of my liver and stomach response.

💩 Gastroenterology:

  • come in to examine

  • Note my quadrant pain

  • Let me know they are going to watch my labs and plan accordingly

  • If my liver enzymes go down, they may just continue to monitor and scope my GI

  • They order an ultrasound

👨‍⚕️ Hospital Physician:

  • he's kind- this guy is listening

  • He's thorough and makes sure I have options for pain/even if I am not taking them.

  • He's honest:


🔥🔥🔥🔥PAIN🔥🔥🔥🔥


👩🏻‍⚕️A New-to-me

Neurosurgeon Nurse Practitioner :

  • tells me the plan is to biopsy Monday


WAIT- WHAT?!!!!?!??


Inside


  • He FUCKING said today!


  • THIS IS TOO MUCH PAIN FOR ANOTHER 2 DAYS!!!!


  • I've been through 2 days of allergies and my liver going nuts- they almost had me in the ICU-


  • WHAT THE FUCK happened?!?!!?


Out loud


🔥Me: I'm sorry. What? I'm NPO, because he said today.


👩🏻‍⚕️NP: I see that but he said the plan was always to biopsy Monday.


🔥: No.

  • Was there an emergency?

  • I get that it's Saturday but I can't do this anymore....

  • Ask M (His other NP) she was here when he said today.

  • He promised me AND my mom/family

  • can I do anything?

  • Is he going to come see me at least?


👩🏻‍⚕️NP: He may still come, they are doing rounds and are in the building, I know there are weekend schedule issues with staff and ORs. There are scheduled procedures getting moved.


MY SECOND 2 DAY WAIT FOR SURGERY BEGINS


The skull pain from HELL continues


Physically + Emotionally Exhausted

  • I transition into survival mode

  • I'm focused on coping with the pain

  • I keep taking showers

  • I find ice helps and ignore the docs who say avoid it because it's my only working option.

  • The pain gets worse and I knowingly take two more iv Dilaudid with the available Benadryl and nausea meds out of need.

  • I use each hour or two to sleep then wait for the neurosurgeon to arrive

  • ❌❌❌ I just cope with the allergic responses

  • - the nurses rub my back and watch me puke.


In comes M-👩🏼‍⚕️ (Neurosurgeon 😎 feels close- but it's just her- and his second NP👩🏻‍⚕️)


Me: Oh thank GOD! Can we still do this today? I haven't eaten- this pain med game has to stop- I'm so sore....


👩🏼‍⚕️👩🏻‍⚕️: I know, I'm so sorry. He said it was not scheduled and the best option is Monday.


Me: is there anyone else? Who is this guy? He lied straight to my face and you were here-- does he have a Halloween party or something? If it were you, what would you do?


👩🏼‍⚕️: Honestly, he's the only one I'd go to. He is the best and is used to day-long surgeries and has good outcomes. He doesn't always come across that way -but he's amazing.


Me: Cool. But right now I hate him. Of course I want the best guy but right now I'd cut this out myself. Does he know I can't even take the pain stuff and nothing is working for longer than two hours? I can't even sleep. Tell me the truth- why Monday? Can't he do it Sunday?


👩🏼‍⚕️: There are no times available in the OR for Sunday and the plan now is for Monday in the afternoon. I know they're adding you to the schedule.


I like her- she knows I'm hurting but she can't fix this.


THIS SUCKS + I'm stuck!


weekend sentence to the hospital room-


I need-

  • ice

  • Meditation

  • Mindfulness

  • Sleep

  • My kids - FactTime


Positives

  • the view

  • My support peeps

  • My kids


I can do ANYTHING right?

others are literally dying in this building -


Call the kids.....


Kinley: "Mom. I don't want to stay here all day waiting for dad to get off work. Logan's playing video games and being mean, Grandma is stressed...."


Perfect Timing

something new to focus on---


A SLEEPOVER with a PURPOSE


A few people didn't get this- and I DO NOT care- but my body has been a mess for a year.


I've gone from 4am gym times to using a cane.


They thought MS, RA, looked for injury, inflammation.... nothing stays consistent and no official Dx


The kids know stuff is different.


At minimum, I'll be returning with a shaved head to a 9yo who is entirely uncomfortable with all things sick and an 18yo who relies entirely on my stability.


let's make the best of this-


✅Call someone to drop off the kids

✅Check with Logan to see if he wants to come (Hard PASS/gamer Saturday conflict).

✅Get ready with the nurses to have a little Saturday night fun.

✅break out Michael Myers - it is

🎃 HALLOWEEN WEEKEND 🎃


It's working----💕


Kinley:

  • This place isn't scary

  • Whoa this chair is sweet

  • Can we PLEASE watch the last three Halloweens - it's tradition!

  • Let's go sit on your executive patio

  • Will they let me order food?

  • Dude- I've got your menu figured out here is your list for the next few days - those are gross and avoid this ....

  • If you're not back for Halloween can we come here?


Me:

  • In pain but this is helping

  • The ice is doing its thing

  • The acting is distracting my mind

  • Somehow watching Michael kill a ton of poor actors becomes relief























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